We are going over day 6 and 7 today! Yesterday I went to my fathers house for Christmas, (it went well!) and after grocery shopping I was wiped out! I’m still fighting off a cold, but again, grateful it’s not worse! So, a quick recap – everyday we are adding 10 items to our gratitude list, and before bed each night we take our rock into our hand and say thank you – while feelinggrateful for the best part of the day. I know I’ve said this every day, but I mean it from the bottom of my heart: Thank you, thank you, thank you for taking the time to read this, and hopefully for following along with me in your copy of The Magic.
One thing I see often on social media is people complaining about their job, or their small paycheck. I’m on disability – I cannot work. I got my first job when I was 14 years old, and always did well at work, so it grinds my gears to see people taking their work for granted. Byrne says that if you are miserable at your job, the best way to get into a better job is to start being grateful for the job you have.
You should love your job, whatever it is, and be excited about going to work, and you shouldn’t settle for anything less. If you don’t feel that way about your current job, or if it’s not your dream job, the way to receive your dream job is by first being grateful for the job you have.
The Magic, p. 71
Day 6 Exercise
The next day you go to work imagine an invisible manager is following you around, taking notes of everything you’re grateful for. Does your office have good coffee? Do you have a coworker you enjoy talking to?As your “gratitude manager” follows you around during your next shift/the next time you work, have them “take note” – you will cue them to note it down by saying or thinking “I’m grateful for ______” and feel as grateful as possible. It can be anything – if no one took your stapler, the building didn’t get set on fire, that kind of stuff. (Sorry, couldn’t resist the silly Office Space reference).
Day 7: Magical Way Out of Negativity
Byrne states on page 77 that taking things for granted is a “major cause of negativity, because when we take things for granted we are not giving thanks in return, and we stop the magic from happening in our life.” She goes on to explain that being negative is impossible when you’re grateful. I cannot agree more! Since I’ve started practicing gratitude, I’m finally happy! Sure, I’ve had some trying times. There was one time my mother was fretting over a bill I had that came out of nowhere and I remember telling her “Mom, if I’m not stressing, you shouldn’t either. I will take care of it when I can, and since there is nothing I can do right this minute, I am not going to let it ruin my day.” She took a deep breath and tried to relax. I’ve been trying to explain to my mother that my life has turned around because I’m grateful for what I have, and don’t stress over what I don’t. She wonders how I can be living in section 8 (income based) housing, get only $800 a month, and not be stressed. I tell her “it’s simple: My son has a safe, warm home. We have a good routine and a healthy relationship. Neither of us ever go hungry. I have a car in the parking lot, and clothes in my closet. I have cable, and canvases, and craft supplies galore, while my son has an entire room for toys. I have done what is in my power to promote my writing business, and have applied for financial aid and payment plans for bills I cannot pay. What do I have to stress about? I’m happy, my son is happy, my life is great!” and ever since she has been coming to me for advice on what she can do to lead a happier life. It’s why I decided to get ordained through the Universal life Church – because as Reverend Amanda Wilson, I can offer advice to people of all faiths, and hopefully help them. Even if they just feel better talking to me, I’m happy and grateful.
Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.
Gautama Buddha, the Founder of Buddhism (Byrne, p.80).
Day 7 Exercise
For today, your task is to choose one problem or negative situation in your life you want to resolve. List 10 things that you are grateful for about the negative situation. At the end of the list, write “Thank you, thank you, thank you, for the perfect resolution.”
For one whole day, try to get through without saying anything negative. If you catch yourself saying or even thinking something negative, stop yourself and say “But I have to say that I am really grateful for _____” This is sort of how I boosted my self confidence. I started by giving myself one compliment a day, and stopped myself from putting myself down. If I put myself down, I would immediately counter with a compliment. It felt silly at first, but I would make a point to look in the mirror and say the compliment aloud. You get used to talking to yourself, and you finally start internalizing the truths of how great you are.
Hello my lovely readers! Who is feeling amazing today!? THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for joining me on this magical endeavor to transform into a grateful person! I have a cold, hence why I’m writing this later than usual. It was great to sleep in! I’m thankful that my cold isn’t as bad as it could be, and I’m thankful that I’m starting to feel better!
So, every morning we are adding 10 more items to our thank you list, and before bed each night we take the gratitude rock into our hands, thinking about the best part of the day and saying thank you, feeling the energy of the gratitude fusing with the rock.
Yesterday we focused on our health and renewed our appreciation for it. Todays’ topic is a bit more touchy – something that can cause wars, murders, make people eat weird stuff and do crazy things:
Rhonda explains that if there’s a lack of money in your life, “understand that feeling worried, envious, jealous, disappointed, discouraged, doubtful, or fearful about money can never bring more money to you, because those feelings come from a lack of gratitude for the money you have.” (p.61) This was one of the first things I started doing when I began my healing journey – I started appreciating the money I have, despite the fact that I get less in a month than many people make in a week. I’m on disability because of my mental illness – I cannot work, so I am lucky to get any money at all. I have a roof over my head, my son and I never go hungry, we are never cold, we have plenty of clothes, and my rent, electricity, and phone bills are always up to date. I am even blessed enough to have cable and internet – a blessing many people in my situation do not have. Has being grateful brought me loads of money? No, but I am confident that my gratitude for what I have is why whenever I have an unexpected expense I somehow come into money to cover it – I get a writing gig, my mother gifts it to me, I sell clothes, one time I was chosen to take a survey for Google and received a $50 gift card, which bought me an office chair I needed so I could spend a large portion of my day at my desk writing. Gratitude has made a HUGE difference in my life, especially when it comes to money.
Now, today’s exercise should have been read in the morning, so I apologize for posting this in the afternoon. But, better late than never! There are a couple steps for today’s exercise:
Take a few minutes to recall all the times you have been given things at no charge to you. When you were a child, did you have toys? Meals at home, a snack and lunch at school? Did you receive gifts for your birthday or holidays? Did you have a pet? Were you rewarded for good grades, or given an allowance? As you remember each time money was paid for you, say and feel the magic words from your heart for each instance.
Take a dollar bill or small bill and put a sticker on it. (I used a Post It Note). On the sticker write: THANK YOU FOR ALL THE MONEY I’VE BEEN GIVEN THROUGHOUT MY LIFE.
Take your magic bill with you today, and at least once in the morning (oops, lol you can do it tomorrow too), once in the afternoon, and once in the evening, or as many times as you want, and take the bill out. With the Magic bill in your hands, read the words you wrote and be truly grateful for the abundance of money you’ve been given.
After today, put the Magic bill somewhere you can see it everyday, to remind you to continue to be grateful for the abundance of money you have been given in your life.
I think it will be fine to perform this now, or you can repeat the process tomorrow. And speaking of tomorrow, I will be doing it a little differently. Tomorrow’s exercise is intended to be done while you’re at work, and because many people don’t work on Sundays, I will be providing day 7’s instructions as well – Byrne explains that if you aren’t going to work on day 6 to perform day 7, then go back to day 6 when you go to work.
Yesterday we reaffirmed our gratitude for our three closest relationships by taking their photos out periodically and saying “Thank you _____, for _____”. We have been starting each day by adding 10 more items to our thank you list and reading them aloud, saying “thank you” three times before moving on to the next item. Before bed, we take our gratitude rock into our hand and reflect back on the day. When the best thing is clear in your mind, you say “thank you, thank you, thank you”. We are beginning, ending and spending time throughout each day being grateful.
Today, day four, we are focusing on something that is of the utmost importance, but ironically is the #1 thing we take for granted: our health. Take a moment to think about your eyes, your nose, your sense of taste – how would life be for you if you were to lose any one of these senses? What about your hearing? The sense of touch? Think abut your legs, and how they help you get to where you’re going, how they support your weight day in and day out. Starting with your toes, focus on each body part in turn and think about why you are grateful for it, then say thank you toes/feet/legs/hips etc.
Now get a sticky note, index card, or scrap piece of paper even and write in bold letters:
The gift of health is keeping me alive.
Put the card somewhere where you will see it often. On at least 4 occasions, read each word carefully, slowly, and feel as grateful as possible for the gift of health. Byrne explains that being grateful for your health is not only essential to keeping it, but it guarantees that it will continue to get better, with increasing energy and zest for life.
If gratitude were used in conjunction with conventional medical treatments, we would see a health revolution, and recovery rates and miracles like we’ve never seen before.
The Magic, p. 57
The greatest wealth is health.
Virgil (Roman poet), p, 51
Gratitude is a vaccine an antitoxin and an antiseptic.
John Henry Jowett (Presbyterian preacher & writer), p.53
Welcome back everyone! Wooo 3 days in only 25 to go! Who else is already feeling better for being grateful?! I know I am! We had a snow storm last night, and I am so grateful that snow removal is included in my rent! Thank you thank you thank you!
So we are making a list of 10 things we’re grateful for everyday, and every night we are taking our magic rock in our hand and saying “thank you thank you thank you”.
Today we are going to be grateful for someone in our life!
It’s your contact and experiences with other people that give your life joy, meaning and purpose.
Byrnes, p. 43
Well, I am thankful for you! and you! and you and you and you! All of my followers, all of my readers, for everyone who shares my blog posts, who follows me on twitter or adds me on Facebook or Pinterest. Magical Musings exists to serve people – anyone who has an interest in magic, who seeks to reenchant the world, who has love in their hearts. I know, a bit cheesy, but it’s true so deal with the cheesiness lol.
Byrne instructs us to
choose three of your closest relationships to be grateful for.
Gather photos of each person.
with the photo in front of you, think of five things you are most grateful for about each person and write it in your Magical Gratitude notebook/word document.
Start each sentence with the magic words “Thank you ______, for ________.” (so I would write Thank you Joshua, for being such a sweet son.)
Carry the photos around with you today, or have them so you can see them throughout the day. (My photos live in my phone and computer, so I will make a collage of them and make it the background of my Mac, because I’m always using it. )
Look at the photos 3 times today, and while looking into their eyes in the photo say Thank you, followed by their name.
Remember, before bed to grab your magic rock and say thank you for the best part of today, and then tomorrow morning add another 10 items to your thank you list!
If you haven’t already, go get your copy of The Magic by Rhonda Byrne! All of my posts are archived, so you won’t have to miss out on anything!
I’d love to know how you’re doing, what you’re experiences are, what you think of the whole thing, so follow me on Twitter and let me know! #magicgratitude2019
The People I am Grateful for Today, Tomorrow, and Every Other Day of My Life
Thank you Josh, for being the best son a mother could ever dream of having ❣
my amazing siblings! thank you Mike, for being the best younger big brother ever, and thank you Alexis, for never being afraid to be you!
Thank you, Mom, for everything you do for me and Josh! I would be so lost without you!
Thank you Samantha, for being an incredible friend and soul sister!
Welcome back for Day 2! Yesterday we learned that gratitude is the secret to success in any respect of life. Following the Universal Law of Attraction, gratitude attracts more of what you are grateful for. If you’re grateful for your job, you will get the promotion you’ve been wanting. If you’re grateful for your income, it will increase. If you’re grateful for you magickal abilities, they will get stronger – the possibilities are infinite.
I started this challenge because I wanted to start the new year by being grateful- truly grateful – for 2018. I started practicing gratitude last year, but you can never be too grateful. If I learn even one new thing through this then I’ll be pleased. If I learn nothing, but you learn something, or even better, your life starts improving, then I will be over the moon! (why is that a euphemism for happy? I’ve always wondered that…)
So I trust that you have figured out a way to keep a written record of our enchanted endeavor, and you have gone over to Amazon and purchased your copy of The Magic so you can read along with me! You can get it on Kindle for like 11 bucks – I’d say it’s a wise investment if your life turns out the way Rhonda Byrne promises it does!
The Magic Rock
(The Magic, p.37-41)
Reflect upon your present blessings of which every man has plenty; not on your misfortunes of which all men have some.
– Charles Dickens
First you will continue to Count your Blessings
(make a list of 10 items, then read all 20 items aloud followed by thank you thank you thank you for each one).
Find a Magic Rock – a smooth rock small enough to fit in the palm of your hand. I’m using tumbled crystal – a piece of Malachite, because it’s winter here and all the rocks are under several feet of snow and the malachite feels good in my hands.
Keep the rock by your bedside – clear a space if you have to, because you want to see the rock every night. When you get into bed, take the rock, hold it in your power hand (dominant hand), and close your fist around it. Think about your day, and focus on the best part of the day. Replay the best part of the day in your mind, then say Thank you out loud.
For the rest of the month you will be starting and ending your day with gratitude.
Happy New year! I cannot believe how quickly 2018 came to an end! It was probably one of the best years of my life. . I have been working hard to improve my life – to heal, to attain sovereignty, to empower myself – and the results have been magnificent. I have found happiness for the first time in my life – even as a child I felt incomplete! But now, I finally feel like I am where I belong.
As I was going through my favorite blogs trying to figure out the best way to celebrate the new year I found a common theme – making plans for 2019. Resolutions, goals, steps -whatever you call them the bottom line is looking forward. But what will be out of sight by looking forward? All I could think was “2018 marks the first year of my new life, and I can’t unceremoniously leave it behind me”.
I was sitting at my desk going through my mini Happy Planner (a hand-me-down from my best friend), and I happened to look over at the bookshelf next to my desk. For those of you who don’t know – I have a huge “witchy” library. I have a large bookshelf upstairs in my altar room holds most of my books, and the bookshelf next to my desk is for the books I’m currently working with for articles or personal study. So anyways, I glance over at my bookshelf and see a book I had honestly forgotten I even owned, and wasn’t sure I remembered putting it there. The book is The Magic by Rhonda Byrne. She’s the same author of The Secret – I never read it but it was all the hype a few years ago.
Dedicated to you…May The Magic open up a new world for you, and bring you joy for your entire existence. That is my intention for you, and for the world.
Byrne didn’t dedicate The Magic to her children or her lover, to her best friend or confidant – she dedicated the book to us. She expressed her wish that magic dance through our lives because she knows a magical life is one of joy, abundance, and fulfillment. I know that once I realized that magic was real – the kind of magic that allows joy into your heart and breaks down all barriers to your imagination- my life started making a turn for the better.
The Magic teaches you how to be grateful – truly grateful. Being grateful doesn’t mean saying thank you when you get a gift, or thanking someone for holding open the door – it’s appreciating everything you have instead of fretting over what you lack.
The Great Mystery Is Revealed
I’m sure you’ve all heard that the universe holds a great mystery – the secret of how to life a fulfilling, enlightened life. Byrne reveals the answer on pages 5-6:
The answer to the mystery that has eluded so many for centuries is in one hidden word: gratitude…if you don’t take the time to be grateful you will never have more, and what you do have you will lose. And the promise of the magic that will happen with gratitude is in these words: if you’re grateful you will be given more, and you will have an abundance!
While the words she quoted came from the Holy Scripture of the Gospel of Matthew they apply to everyone because they are describing a fundamental law of science and of the Universe. Gratitude operates on a Universal law with which us witches are quite familiar with: The Law of Attraction – like attracts like. When you are truly grateful for your home, your finances – no matter how much or how little you make – then according to the Law of Attraction you will attract more of them.
It works in the same way as metal being drawn to a magnet; your gratitude is magnetic, and the more gratitude you have, the more abundance you magnetize. It is Universal Law!
You Can Never Be Too Grateful I learned how to be grateful in 2018 – after 30 years of life I finally learned how to be grateful. So why am I starting 2019 with a Gratitude challenge? Because you can never be too grateful! My life has changed so dramatically in 2018, it simply would not be right to move forward in 2019 without paying the proper respect to the changes accomplished in 2018.
The Magic Formula
Deliberately think and say the magic words: Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.
The more you deliberately think and say the magic words, thank you, the more gratitude you feel.
The more gratitude you deliberately think and feel, the more abundance you receive.
I am honestly not doing this challenge to gain more out of life- I am doing it because it is easy to take things for granted, and I feel compelled to remind myself every day that I would be homeless or dead if I hadn’t taken the path I did a few years ago that lead me to the changes I made in 2018. More abundance of course is welcome, but I wanted to just get that out there. I welcome you to join me in this challenge – the reason why is for you to decide. I don’t care what your reasoning is, because no matter how selfish you may think it is, I only care about bringing more joy and love into another persons life. You can get The Magic on Amazon. I will be writing about the challenges, but I urge you to get a copy for yourself because you are often instructed to read ahead and I will not be providing detailed notes of the chapters. It wouldn’t be legal to replicate her book on here. Also, you might want to get a journal or notebook to keep through this challenge. I personally like writing things out by hand, but using a word processor on your computer will work too. So, get your copy of The Magic, set up a way to journal the endeavor and join me on this magical adventure!
The Magic Gratitude 28-day Challenge: Before you start
Figure out what it is you want to achieve. Get paper and pen or your computer/tablet/phone and make a list of what you really want in every area of life – literally every aspect. Remember you are just making list of what you want- not how you will get it.
The Magic Gratitude 28-day Challenge, Day 1: Count your blessings
When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around. – Willie Nelson (p.29)
This assignment is probably best done on a computer or tablet, because you will be adding to it everyday for the next 27 days. When you first wake up, or as soon as you can in the day, make a list of 10 things you are grateful for. Think about why you’re grateful too. When you finish writing the 10 things, go back and read each one aloud, followed by saying “Thank you Thank you Thank you” before reading the next item.
Some ideas for format: I am truly blessed to have _____, because _______. I am so happy and grateful for ______, because ________. I am so thankful for ______, because ______.
Good luck, and thank you, thank you, thank you, for reading my blog! #MagicGratitude2019
No matter how many times I watch this video I get chills. Fleassy Malay has found the words, the voice, and even the facial expressions that reach into my soul and grip my core. It was when I finally claimed back that no as mine that my life started to piece together. I was a shell of a human being, merely staying alive to care for my son, but I was not living. I couldn’t do what my family, my peers, everyone in my life told me I should do – and my whole life that’s all I’ve done. I’d never said NO. I’d come up with excuses if it was something I really didn’t want to do but never said no.
You see words, they have meaning. I’d convince myself that what I was doing was the right thing because my parents/teachers/peers said it was. I thought they would only accept me, approve of me if I did what they said. But when I hit bottom and had no hands reaching down to try to help me up, I was done listening to the words of others. I decided it was time to give my own words power.
Becoming a witch meant finding the power that was laying quietly in my mind, the energy slowly trickling through my body undetected. It was not easy – the discipline, the research, the exercises. But by the Gods, it was worth it!
Through the hubble and the bubble and the toil and the trouble we grow stronger…
As I learned to cast a circle, how to make charms and enchantments, wards and wands, my soul grew stronger. My life got better. In the past year, I have reached a level of happiness I have never known before. Even as a child I always felt like there was a hole in my heart, my soul. I felt like something was missing from my life and to make it worse I didn’t know what it was that I was missing! I vividly remember being 4 years old, laying in bed and feeling that pain – It made me cry so hard my mother came in. I told her the first lie in my living memory when she came in. She obviously asked why I was crying. I told her I missed my uncle – which is really random because he lived across the country. But that memory stuck with me because I lied to my mother. At 4 years old I knew that I couldn’t just tell her I was crying because I felt like a wasn’t a whole person, that I was missing something, a part of myself. How I knew that I don’t know, and randomly just knowing something was another thing that stayed with me since that night. (Claircognizance – a very odd and at the same time freakin’ awesome ability to have.)
So now we cast spells with our mouths, pieces of our hearts spill out. It is incredible…
I have finally found that missing link, filled that hole within my soul. Now my passions are all the fiercer, my will all the stronger. I have entered the fire, I have risen from the ashes. I am a Witch and I have learned to say NO! I refuse to allow anyone to tell me what to do, I will no longer listen to “you should…”. You see words, they carry meaning – they are powerful, so powerful spells can be simply words spoken aloud. I refuse to be affected by the words of others- I have broken the curse that caused me to be filled with dread and misery whenever I so much as mildly disappointed anyone. I have freed myself from the enchantment that caused me to just lay down and let people walk all over me, allow people – family members even- to put me down. If I am insulted I say something. If someone asks too much of me, I say something. I have reclaimed that no as Mine!
Fleassy Malay is an Australian poet, inspirational speaker, feminist, and an artist with words. I found her WITCHES performance originally on Uplift, and have followed her on social media since. I can’t emphasize enough how talented she is! Just in case it’s not obvious when I italicized words above it was because they were from her poem Witches. I’m not sure how to properly cite that, and I’m too tired to figure it out. So I’m using this method lol. If you were as moved as I by her performance check out her website.