Magically Heal Your Relationships
If you have a difficult or broken relationship, are suffering from a broken heart, or hold any resentment or blame toward another person for anything, you can change it through gratitude. Gratitiude will magically improve any difficult relationship, whether that person is a husband, or wife, brother or sister, son or daughter, partner, boss, business client, work colleague, mother- or father-in-law, friend, or neighbor.
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.
There is some merit to the broken relationship; you just have to look closely to see it. I have a troublesome relationship with someone, but if I stop to think about it, I have a lot to be grateful for! That person has made a lot of great things happen for me. Today, we are going to make a list of 10 things we are grateful for about one person we have chosen to mend a relationship with magically. The list should be formatted like so:
Person , I’m grateful for_______.
Start the day with your thank you list, and close the day with your Magic rock!
Until tomorrow my lovelies!
Welcome to day 11!
I hope everyone has been having a wonderful, thankful week!
We are at Day 10! Who is feeling amazing! I know my mood has been getting increasingly better, my patience has increased, and I’m finding myself just sitting back and smiling thinking about how lovely my little life is. How has your life changed since starting this challenge? I’d love to know!! Just contact me and tell me your story!
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle
Be sure to add 10 items to your thank you list every morning, and hold your rock and say thank you for the best part of the day.
Take a Bite Into a Gratitude Sandwich
Byrne writes that giving thanks for the food one is about to eat has been practiced thousands of years, dating back to the ancient Egyptians. In Elen Sentier’s new book Shaman Pathways -Following the Deer Trods: A Practical Guide to Working with Elen of the Ways, Sentier explains that the ancients dating back to Paleolithic times, when humans were still hunter-gatherers, considered hunting a sacred rite, and gave thanks to the animals and plants who gave their lives to sustain that of the humans. (Btw – if you’re interesting in learning about Elen of the Ways, this is a great book choice! Sentier teaches a lot of exercises that help you explore the Otherworld, and helps you connect with the Universe in unique and enlightening way).
When you’re about to pop some popcorn for a movie night with your family, or pop open a bag of pretzels for your child (obviously something I just did), think about the work it took to get that food into your hands. You went to the store and spent the money, yes, but there’s more than that. The people who stocked the shelves at the store, the people who delivered the food to the store, the people who put the food into the neat mini-sized bags, the people who made the food….when you think about it, you realize that a lot of people contributed to feeding your growing child; that keep your belly from rumbling angrily when you’re hungry.
Day 8 Exercise
Hello my lovely readers!
We are going over day 6 and 7 today! Yesterday I went to my fathers house for Christmas, (it went well!) and after grocery shopping I was wiped out! I’m still fighting off a cold, but again, grateful it’s not worse!
So, a quick recap – everyday we are adding 10 items to our gratitude list, and before bed each night we take our rock into our hand and say thank you – while feeling grateful for the best part of the day. I know I’ve said this every day, but I mean it from the bottom of my heart: Thank you, thank you, thank you for taking the time to read this, and hopefully for following along with me in your copy of The Magic.
Day 6: Works Like Magic
One thing I see often on social media is people complaining about their job, or their small paycheck. I’m on disability – I cannot work. I got my first job when I was 14 years old, and always did well at work, so it grinds my gears to see people taking their work for granted. Byrne says that if you are miserable at your job, the best way to get into a better job is to start being grateful for the job you have.
You should love your job, whatever it is, and be excited about going to work, and you shouldn’t settle for anything less. If you don’t feel that way about your current job, or if it’s not your dream job, the way to receive your dream job is by first being grateful for the job you have.The Magic, p. 71
Day 6 Exercise
The next day you go to work imagine an invisible manager is following you around, taking notes of everything you’re grateful for. Does your office have good coffee? Do you have a coworker you enjoy talking to?As your “gratitude manager” follows you around during your next shift/the next time you work, have them “take note” – you will cue them to note it down by saying or thinking “I’m grateful for ______” and feel as grateful as possible. It can be anything – if no one took your stapler, the building didn’t get set on fire, that kind of stuff. (Sorry, couldn’t resist the silly Office Space reference).
Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.
Day 7 Exercise
For one whole day, try to get through without saying anything negative. If you catch yourself saying or even thinking something negative, stop yourself and say “But I have to say that I am really grateful for _____”
This is sort of how I boosted my self confidence. I started by giving myself one compliment a day, and stopped myself from putting myself down. If I put myself down, I would immediately counter with a compliment. It felt silly at first, but I would make a point to look in the mirror and say the compliment aloud. You get used to talking to yourself, and you finally start internalizing the truths of how great you are.
Hello my lovely readers! Who is feeling amazing today!? THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for joining me on this magical endeavor to transform into a grateful person! I have a cold, hence why I’m writing this later than usual. It was great to sleep in! I’m thankful that my cold isn’t as bad as it could be, and I’m thankful that I’m starting to feel better!
If you haven’t already, get a copy of The Magic by Rhonda Byrne, the author and creator of this process.
So, every morning we are adding 10 more items to our thank you list, and before bed each night we take the gratitude rock into our hands, thinking about the best part of the day and saying thank you, feeling the energy of the gratitude fusing with the rock.
Yesterday we focused on our health and renewed our appreciation for it. Todays’ topic is a bit more touchy – something that can cause wars, murders, make people eat weird stuff and do crazy things:
Rhonda explains that if there’s a lack of money in your life, “understand that feeling worried, envious, jealous, disappointed, discouraged, doubtful, or fearful about money can never bring more money to you, because those feelings come from a lack of gratitude for the money you have.” (p.61)
This was one of the first things I started doing when I began my healing journey – I started appreciating the money I have, despite the fact that I get less in a month than many people make in a week. I’m on disability because of my mental illness – I cannot work, so I am lucky to get any money at all. I have a roof over my head, my son and I never go hungry, we are never cold, we have plenty of clothes, and my rent, electricity, and phone bills are always up to date. I am even blessed enough to have cable and internet – a blessing many people in my situation do not have. Has being grateful brought me loads of money? No, but I am confident that my gratitude for what I have is why whenever I have an unexpected expense I somehow come into money to cover it – I get a writing gig, my mother gifts it to me, I sell clothes, one time I was chosen to take a survey for Google and received a $50 gift card, which bought me an office chair I needed so I could spend a large portion of my day at my desk writing. Gratitude has made a HUGE difference in my life, especially when it comes to money.
Now, today’s exercise should have been read in the morning, so I apologize for posting this in the afternoon. But, better late than never! There are a couple steps for today’s exercise:
- Take a few minutes to recall all the times you have been given things at no charge to you. When you were a child, did you have toys? Meals at home, a snack and lunch at school? Did you receive gifts for your birthday or holidays? Did you have a pet? Were you rewarded for good grades, or given an allowance? As you remember each time money was paid for you, say and feel the magic words from your heart for each instance.
- Take a dollar bill or small bill and put a sticker on it. (I used a Post It Note). On the sticker write: THANK YOU FOR ALL THE MONEY I’VE BEEN GIVEN THROUGHOUT MY LIFE.
- Take your magic bill with you today, and at least once in the morning (oops, lol you can do it tomorrow too), once in the afternoon, and once in the evening, or as many times as you want, and take the bill out. With the Magic bill in your hands, read the words you wrote and be truly grateful for the abundance of money you’ve been given.
- After today, put the Magic bill somewhere you can see it everyday, to remind you to continue to be grateful for the abundance of money you have been given in your life.
Until tomorrow, my lovely readers!
Welcome back my lovely readers!
|My Magic Rock|
Yesterday we reaffirmed our gratitude for our three closest relationships by taking their photos out periodically and saying “Thank you _____, for _____”. We have been starting each day by adding 10 more items to our thank you list and reading them aloud, saying “thank you” three times before moving on to the next item. Before bed, we take our gratitude rock into our hand and reflect back on the day. When the best thing is clear in your mind, you say “thank you, thank you, thank you”. We are beginning, ending and spending time throughout each day being grateful.
Today, day four, we are focusing on something that is of the utmost importance, but ironically is the #1 thing we take for granted: our health.
Take a moment to think about your eyes, your nose, your sense of taste – how would life be for you if you were to lose any one of these senses? What about your hearing? The sense of touch?
Think abut your legs, and how they help you get to where you’re going, how they support your weight day in and day out.
Starting with your toes, focus on each body part in turn and think about why you are grateful for it, then say thank you toes/feet/legs/hips etc.
Now get a sticky note, index card, or scrap piece of paper even and write in bold letters:
The gift of health is keeping me alive.
Put the card somewhere where you will see it often. On at least 4 occasions, read each word carefully, slowly, and feel as grateful as possible for the gift of health. Byrne explains that being grateful for your health is not only essential to keeping it, but it guarantees that it will continue to get better, with increasing energy and zest for life.
If gratitude were used in conjunction with conventional medical treatments, we would see a health revolution, and recovery rates and miracles like we’ve never seen before.
The greatest wealth is health.
Gratitude is a vaccine an antitoxin and an antiseptic.
Welcome back everyone! Wooo 3 days in only 25 to go! Who else is already feeling better for being grateful?! I know I am! We had a snow storm last night, and I am so grateful that snow removal is included in my rent! Thank you thank you thank you!
It’s your contact and experiences with other people that give your life joy, meaning and purpose.
- choose three of your closest relationships to be grateful for.
- Gather photos of each person.
- with the photo in front of you, think of five things you are most grateful for about each person and write it in your Magical Gratitude notebook/word document.
- Start each sentence with the magic words “Thank you ______, for ________.” (so I would write Thank you Joshua, for being such a sweet son.)
- Carry the photos around with you today, or have them so you can see them throughout the day. (My photos live in my phone and computer, so I will make a collage of them and make it the background of my Mac, because I’m always using it. )
- Look at the photos 3 times today, and while looking into their eyes in the photo say Thank you, followed by their name.
The People I am Grateful for Today, Tomorrow, and Every Other Day of My Life
|Thank you Josh,
for being the best son a mother could ever dream of having ❣
|my amazing siblings!
thank you Mike,
for being the best younger big brother ever,
and thank you Alexis, for never being afraid to be you!
|Thank you, Mom,
for everything you do for me and Josh!
I would be so lost without you!
Welcome back for Day 2! Yesterday we learned that gratitude is the secret to success in any respect of life. Following the Universal Law of Attraction, gratitude attracts more of what you are grateful for. If you’re grateful for your job, you will get the promotion you’ve been wanting. If you’re grateful for your income, it will increase. If you’re grateful for you magickal abilities, they will get stronger – the possibilities are infinite.
I started this challenge because I wanted to start the new year by being grateful- truly grateful – for 2018. I started practicing gratitude last year, but you can never be too grateful. If I learn even one new thing through this then I’ll be pleased. If I learn nothing, but you learn something, or even better, your life starts improving, then I will be over the moon! (why is that a euphemism for happy? I’ve always wondered that…)
So I trust that you have figured out a way to keep a written record of our enchanted endeavor, and you have gone over to Amazon and purchased your copy of The Magic so you can read along with me! You can get it on Kindle for like 11 bucks – I’d say it’s a wise investment if your life turns out the way Rhonda Byrne promises it does!
The Magic Rock
(The Magic, p.37-41)
Reflect upon your present blessings of which every man has plenty; not on your misfortunes of which all men have some.
First you will continue to Count your Blessings
Find a Magic Rock – a smooth rock small enough to fit in the palm of your hand. I’m using tumbled crystal – a piece of Malachite, because it’s winter here and all the rocks are under several feet of snow and the malachite feels good in my hands.
Keep the rock by your bedside – clear a space if you have to, because you want to see the rock every night.
When you get into bed, take the rock, hold it in your power hand (dominant hand), and close your fist around it. Think about your day, and focus on the best part of the day. Replay the best part of the day in your mind, then say Thank you out loud.
For the rest of the month you will be starting and ending your day with gratitude.